Seven Questions to Ask Before Marriage Or After Weathering Stressful Marital Problems

Whether singles are coming to my office before marriage or moving in, or marrieds have come through some rough times, they essentially want the same insights and information.  I picked up these hints at a seminar several years ago, and thought they are definitely worth sharing with everyone in a relationship.

Seven Questions to Ask Before Marriage And After Weathering Marital Problems

WHAT IS OUR DEFINITION OF COMMITMENT?  YOU WILL BE SURPRISED AT WHAT YOU LEARN.

ARE WE IN AGREEMENT ABOUT OUR FINANCES?  NEXT TO SEX, MONEY IS THE BIGGEST CAUSE OF PROBLEMS, ARGUMENTS, AND RESENTMENT IN RELATIONSHIPS.

ARE WE IN AGREEMENT ABOUT HOUSEHOLD RESPONSIBILITIES?

HOW CLOSE ARE WE TO FAMILY AND FRIENDS?

HOW DO WE HANDLE ANGER AND OTHER EMOTIONS? 

HOW DO WE SHOW LOVE TO ONE ANOTHER?  WHAT ACTIONS AND WORDS MEAN “LOVE?”

HOW WELL DID WE DISCUSS THESE QUESTIONS?  HONEST AND OPEN DISCUSSION PROVIDES THE TOOLS THAT LEAD TO SATISFACTORY PROBLEM SOLVING.

What's Stopping You?

Almost everyone knows something they really want to do  before they die.  If it wouldn't harm or hurt others, or yourself, what would you do?  What is holding you back?   You can probably do it today.  Write and tell me about it.

ABOUT LISTENING

Listening better, paying attention to what is being said, and showing respect to what is being said are some of the best ways to be able to develop good relationships with others.  Listening is an art and is developed through your ability to focus on the other person and to make them a priority at that moment. When someone tells their story, really listen before you tell yours.

ABOUT FITTING IN

Something I hear fairly often, and on an ongoing basis, is; "I am a misfit," "I just don't feel like I fit in with anyone," or, "I don't like the same things they do."  


The fix is for you to make changes.  Find the people and/or groups that feel like a 'fit' for who you are.  If you feel uncomfortable with the people around you, then change the people you are around. 


It is not the group making you feel uncomfortable, it is you.  Without you changing, you will reflect the group making you feel uncomfortable.  You will appear to other people to be the same as the people with whom you feel uncomfortable.


Jim

Migraine Headache Article--Neurology Now

This is an article you can access on the Neurology Now website concerning current information on Migraine Headaches.

http://journals.lww.com/neurologynow/Fulltext/2012/08030/Heading_Off_Migraine__What_s_the_evidence_for.17.aspx?WT.mc_id=EMxj07x20120605NNxL07&generateEpub=Article|neurologynow:2012:08030:00017||

For those of you who suffer with Migraines, I hope this gives you some new information that might be helpful.

Jim